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PORN she wrote

 
 

Last week, Mr C's good friend came over for dinner. This friend is the kind of marvellous, non-commital, interesting, quirky muso/actor you'd expect to find in LA where he's currently based. He has a penchant for Japanese girls and always corners me in an attempt to squeeze out any remaining pearls of wisdom on female sexual prowess and how to capture and bottle it. As dinner progressed, I was, as I always am amongst curious friends, once again catapulted to the movie Groundhog Day as the conversation turned toward sex. Mr C's friend, let'c call him Elvis because he has Elvis hair said to me: "So Jas, why do girls like guy-on-guy porn so much?" To which I replied, "I have no idea, I don't actually like guy-on-guy porn but if you're looking for some recommended titles I'll get back to you".  The conversation then turned to anal plugs and anal sex.

Over the next couple of days I watched as much guy-on-guy porn as I could stomach just to ensure that I wasn't missing out on anything but as I suspected found that guy-on-guy porn was still very much a big turn-off for me. So I looked into it further and found that it is true, guy-on-guy porn is popular with the gals. Some of the reasoning for it I didn't buy, such as the idea that girls like to watch it because it's aligned with their feminist ideals, which I don't really understand but hey, there's loads of things I don't understand so I say whatever floats your boat is cool with me.

I know a lot of "feminists" have issues with porn but not me. I think that as long as you take it for what it is, it is pretty harmless. I personally don't like a lot of the mainstream stuff but I just don't watch it. The porn I like to watch with Mr C is in my view sexier, higher quality and just looks a helluva lot more enjoyable but that is totally my personal choice and what turns me on. I think Erika Lust has done a great job in creating female friendly porn that is hot as hell. I also find erotica to be a huge turn on whether it's in the form of literature or film

So if you only take one thing from this rant, it's this: You need to explore and find what turns you on. Then embrace it. If mainstream stuff makes you want to masturbate with fervour then sign up to your fave site or if you prefer a subtle, more romantic erotic film then opt for that. If porn or erotica doesn't do it for you then move on and explore something else. Remember there is no "should", no "right or wrong", only what is right for you.

{1} ALL THE GIF(T)S
Tumblr is a little cronut of inspiration. Get through the layers of security to the saucy centre and you can find some very tasteful erotic imagery (Tumblr doesn’t allow video but those dancing stills called GIFS are everywhere and are surprisingly arousing). You can literally spend hours scouring Tumblr and the great thing is, there really is something for everyone on there. Some of our favourites include: Porn4LadiesHighbrow EroticaLove Porn for Women and Frolic Me Please.

{2.} IF THE APOCALYPSE COMES, F**K ME
OK so here's a further intro to the aforementioned Barcelona-based erotic film-maker Erika Lust is a favourite of ours. She takes user-submitted “confessions” from her website XConfessions and turns them into artful, at times funny, and always cinematically-rich erotic films. While her films may not be able to match in variety the likes of well-established mainstream porn sites, she does cater to a range of predilections and adds two new films each month. Our favourites include: Appointment with My MasterThe Art of SpankingI Fucking Love IKEAWe Know You Are Watching and Sit Down, Shut Up and Watch.
 
Then there’s Erika’s production company Lust Cinema, which curates a selection of work by other directors who produce alternatives to mainstream porn. There’s everything from vintage to modern, tutorials to art, romance to kink. It’s worth a look.

Anna Richards is another female-friendly porn producer who started off with a Tumblr blog (FrolicMePlease, as linked above) and then entered into production with her website Frolic Me. The films, while lacking in Lust's edge, are clean, HD and definitely worth a look. As are the films created by Lucie Blush.
 
{3} FOR YOUR EARS ONLY
We talk quite a lot about the amazing effect that a restriction on the senses has on the ability to heighten your sexual awareness. Audio-only porn is another avenue for exploration. Interestingly, many of the audio blogs out there are created by women and have a high number of female-submitted moans and groans, proving what we have known for quite some time, that women love to masturbate and have sex just as much as the dudes. Audio porn is not for everyone and sometimes you've got to sift through the Pamela Anderson renditions but it can be a real turn-on. Check out Audible PornSounds of Pleasure and Hear Them Fucking on Soundcloud.

{4.} A BEAUTIFUL AGONY
Audio porn may not be your thing, full-on female porn may not be to your exact liking either but there are some other alternative porn sites that are incredibly arousing.

A Beautiful Agony is dedicated to the beauty of human orgasm. It began 12 years ago as an experiment to test a hypothesis that eroticism in human imagery rests not in naked flesh and sexual illustration, but engagement with the face.

Hysterical Literature is another site we've visited over and over again. Artist Clayton Cubitt created the online video project which involves a woman sitting at a desk reading a passage from a novel, all the while an assistant is underneath the table and using a vibrator to bring the reader to climax.

And then there's porn from above aka Drone Boning.

{6.} MAINSTREAM MANIA
Whilst I've obviously been tooting the female-friendly porn horn, there are some mainstream producers worth mentioning.

X Art shoots high quality, paid, HD films with some great story lines. Check out Sylvie & Mr X

Award-winning Spanish company, Thagson, also produces some decent mainstream stuff. Girls Sex Tricks is one of their most popular productions and Five Hot Stories For Herproduced by Thagson and written and directed by Erika Lust, offers five modern, urban, spicy and erotic stories, featuring natural and realistic sex. 
 
Then there's the likes of PornhubXNXX et al. While some of the more reputable companies post previews of their films on these extremely popular mainstream sites, you can waste a lot of time sifting through to find decent film. If you'd like to explore the mainstream sites, take your time and look through the categories you think would appeal to you. I don't usually bother with "top rated" or "most viewed" because the viewers who rack up the scores are usually males and prefer the POV porn (so not female friendly).


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