“The HOT Meet is the highlight of my month and has been one of the best things to happen to me"


The monthly HOT [House of Theodora] Meet is all about sex, intimacy and relationships. It's about getting real, a place where you can talk about spanking and fucking and masturbation and love and jealousy and non-monogamy and fantasies and SQUIRTING AND confidence. This event is open to females only. We allow a small number of attendees at our HOT Meets to ensure intimacy and inclusion so snap up your seat! For those who've thought of coming but haven't yet, we are a group of fun, curious and intelligent babes who like to get together, drink nice wine and chat about sex. We leave judgement at the door and sit down with open hearts, thoughtful discussion and a wicked sense of humour. New faces are always welcome. RSVP is essential.




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what girls say about our monthly HOT meet

The HOT Meet is the highlight of my month and has been one of the best things to happen to me. Meeting so many beautiful souls, sharing intimate details in this warm space has benefited my life and self development in immeasurable ways. From day 1, it’s felt safe, loving, and easy. Whether it’s getting validation for decisions that may buck social norms, for realising you aren’t alone in desires, it’s a safe space for women to explore being women.
— Katey
In theory, meeting 10 strangers from the internet to discuss sex sounds unnatural and weird. In practice, it’s powerful. In these strangers I’ve found safety, warmth and sexual intellect that some of my most treasured friendships lack. The night flows naturally and becomes a protected space to discuss desires, debunk stereotypes and learn about sexuality, preference and myself. There is nothing else like it.
— Elizabeth



Fireside chat

With a Dom and his sub

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An evening with a Dom

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Is it really as fluid as the Mississippi?



the great, big O


libido limbo

dealing with incompatible sex drives

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dating ‘Agents of the Devil’

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Is monogamy monotonous?

what girls say about our monthly HOT meet

I leave every monthly meet feeling validated. It is such a joy to be frank in discussion about those topics that are central to our sexual and emotional wellbeing without feeling judged or dismissed.
— Jane
I originally connected with House of Theodora via lingerie and have been going to the meet ups since they started. I’m grateful and admire Jasmin for the forum she’s created and that it’s an evolving thing. I take my interests seriously too and am not satisfied by shallow conversation. Sex is a vital part of existence but most of us have lacked the opportunity to talk about it for various reasons. It’s liberating to be able to talk about and share sex related experiences with a (diverse) group of women. It expands my understanding of sex, myself and others. I enjoy continuing sparks from the conversations with my (male) partner, and the internal buzz these meet ups give; the value definitely extends outside the [wine] bar.
— Heather