THE RADIANT WOMAN
read our interview with sandra below
HOUSE OF THEODORA CHATS TO
SANDRA LAZNIK TRAVELS THE WORLD, ISLAND HOPPING TO BLISSFUL BEACHES, TEACHING WOMEN HOW TO OWN THEIR SEXUALITY & RELISH IN THE CONFIDENCE THAT COMES WITH UNDERSTANDING YOUR OWN PLEASURE. WE SPOKE TO HER ABOUT AWAKENING THE SEXUAL, RADIANT SELF.
How important is it to take your sexual pleasure seriously?
Sexual energy is the most powerful energy in the world. If you’re not commanding it, it can get easily misused, manipulated and can cause feelings of shame or guilt (cause we’ve not been taught about it, cause we’ve been burnt in history for expressing it, cause of religion, cause of trauma - you name it).
Now, you have a free will and you can take sex just for fun or as a tool to release bodily tensions - which is all cool and I’m all about it too, but learning how to grow, celebrate, nourish, circulate and multiply this force - that’s another level. I’m passionate about teaching people that first of all: sexual pleasure is the basis of health and secondly: you have the power to mould it, spread it all over your body and use it for healing and your highest creative expressions.
And I don’t care if you’re creatively expressing yourself while dancing on the dance pole or calculating how many atoms are splitting per blink of and eye.
I spent many years believing that my sexual partner’s pleasure was much more important than mine. How do we focus on doing more for ourselves while not feeling selfish?
The biggest turn on for a male partner is to see his woman in pleasure. All they want is to give us pleasure. All they desire is our full turn on. If you just put this thought in your head that you filled with pleasure and genuinely expressing it = the biggest gift for him - I feel the whole conversation changes. (I don’t know how this flows in the same sex relationships, but I can imagine its similar).
Feeling selfish evaporates when you understand that self-care in any form is actually a care for the other. Giving to others while you’re feeling empty or you’re doing it cause you feel “oblige to” is self-disrespect.
How do you create a sacred space for sexual intimacy with a partner OR WITH YOURSELF?
For me candles, soft light, soft music, essential oils in the air and comfortable soft surfaces always work (a hedonistic Taurus style).
How would you go about setting up a boudoir for an evening of sexual pleasure?
Poetry, flowers, candles, loads of pillows in a hotel room. I find human voice a big turn on or a big turn off. So reading poetry to each other while stroking and kissing is a hell yes for me. Followed by a sensual massage, well, even better.
What is a simple exercise you can do to awaken your sensual self?
The way you walk. People, especially men can read so much about a woman’s sexual confidence by the way we swing with our hips. Start paying attention to the way you walk - slow it down, soften it, breathe consciously while you walk, relax your shoulders, let your breasts lead the way. You can go to my website, www.intimiyoga.com, and get 6 super easy exercises that will awaken your sensual self, help you get rid of the shame and moisturise your hip area.
In yoga we talk a lot the importance of breath, what role does breath play in sexual wellness/experience?
Main role, without a doubt. Breathing affects how you feel, how you digest, which hormones your pituitary gland will secrete - its insane how important it is and even more crazy how much we forget about it in the sexual wellness. If you just learn how to inhale fully into your belly area and exhale fully and keep the rhythm for about 4 seconds - no matter the sexual act or the riding part - your whole sensual life will change.
some women can find it difficult to orgasm because they are too focused on their thoughts. How do we overcome this?
Some women find it hard to orgasm cause they are too focused on the orgasm itself. Shift the focus from “I must orgasm” or “fuck I’m not feeling like orgasm” into “ok, let me give myself a full permission to enjoy and experience this encounter - no matter what.”
It can be challenging to be confident when it comes to sex. Whether it’s the confidence to try new things, the confidence to communicate or the confidence to let go of insecurities we may have around our naked body. How do you encourage women to tap into their confidence?
Go stand naked in front of a mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are. Im not joking. Confidence in bed is no different than confidence in life and nobody will give it to you, no matter how much they compliment you. I always feel confident in myself when I take care of my body physically, emotionally and mentally. Its like I’m indestructible. Or when I dance. I don’t know what’s your thing that makes you glow - but I found my best make up is my strong and radiant aura. And trust me, the world needs A Confident You cause insecurity is the worst smelling perfume and nobody likes to hang around insecure people.
What’s the best yoga pose for intense orgasm?
Surrender. Forget about a list of poses for intense orgasms that you can find in magazines. You’ll never reach it if you don’t know how to surrender and be willing to be fucked open to God or Divine or however you or David Deida wants to call it (by the way, I strongly recommend every woman in The House Of Theodora to read his book Dear Lover).
Learn how to breathe fully, feel fully, express fully and then intense orgasms will be happening to you while in bed or while cleaning your closet.